Going through a divorce can be emotionally challenging, and it’s important to approach the process with care and consideration. Here are a few steps you can take after expressing your desire for a divorce.

It’s essential to have open and honest communication with your spouse about your decision. Maintaining respectful communication can help facilitate a smoother process. Clear and concise language is recommended, such as a simple “I want a divorce.”

Be prepared to take a walk or otherwise establish physical distance should an emotional response undermine the productivity of the discussion.  Do not expect that you will be able to address divorce terms when you first announce your intention. Remember, you have thought about divorce for months, even years. Your decision may be unexpected to your spouse, and they may need time and space to “catch up” with where you are.

Consider seeking the guidance of a counselor or therapist. A neutral third party can help both of you navigate the emotional challenges and provide guidance on the best way to proceed.

Consult with a family law attorney who specializes in divorce. They can help you understand the legal implications, guide you through the process, and protect your rights and interests. Collecting important financial and legal documents, such as bank statements, tax returns, property titles, and investment records will be useful when determining the division of assets and other financial matters.

Once your spouse has had time to cope with the initial emotional impact, be prepared to discuss the practical aspects of separation, such as living arrangements, parenting time (if applicable), division of assets, and financial matters. Using the Collaborative Divorce approach can save time, money, and emotional distress compared to a contentious court battle.

Surround yourself with a supportive network of family and friends who can offer emotional support during this challenging time. Consider joining a divorce support group to connect with others who are going through similar experiences.

Remember, every divorce is unique, and the process can vary based on your individual circumstances and local laws. It’s crucial to consult with professionals who can provide personalized advice based on your specific situation.

The experienced New Hampshire Collaborative Divorce attorneys at Wescott Law can assist you in your divorce.