The holidays are exciting, especially for families with young children. This special time of the year often includes gathering with loved ones and carrying out fun-filled traditions. Although holiday plans may be different for children after a divorce, a Parenting Plan drafted with the help of an attorney establishes basic guidelines for holiday planning, eliminates uncertainty, and reduces conflict.

A Parenting Plan is most helpful when it outlines the specific times that each parent has with the children for selected holidays and will override the regular parenting schedule.

Important considerations to keep in mind when using a Parenting Plan:

• Be understanding and flexible; compromise will produce an ideal situation for the children.
• It is healthy for the development of children to have both parents involved in their lives.
• Try starting new traditions with children for a more seamless transition, such as cutting down your own Christmas tree, volunteering, or traveling to see family.
• Model healthy behavior for your children and remember to take care of yourself.
• Ensure that the holiday schedule does not deprive either parent of time with the children for an extended period.
• Communicate any wishes to make occasional changes to the Parenting Plan as they arise and seek the other parent’s approval before acting on any changes.
• Keep the children free from parental discussions and decision-making.
• If an agreement cannot be reached on plans, both parents must refer back to the Parenting Plan.

It is still possible to successfully co-parent after a divorce or break up. It is recommended that you speak with an attorney prior to your mediation or hearing to draft a Parenting Plan to best your interests. Separated families are still families; plan ahead to have a happy, healthy holiday season.

Attorney Kathrine Lacey has extensive experience in Family Law. She can assist you in the creation and implementation of a Parenting Plan to best suit your changing family’s needs.